A mother's self-image is complex, with numerous factors contributing to sense of self. The media can contribute to a negative self-image by promoting unrealistic ideals.
Svelte celebrity moms and voluptuous characters who leave real housewives looking truly desperate are unlikely to disappear from our media landscape anytime soon. But you don't have to wait for a change in scenery to enjoy a body-positive media experience. Here are some ideas you can implement right now.
- Stop comparing yourself to celebrities. In a Good Housekeeping interview, actress and mother Sarah Jessica Parker said of her profession, "[N]o real woman should look to a woman in this industry as an example. It's simply not applicable because of the enormous number of advantages we have." Celebrities' access to personal chefs and trainers - along with a job description that requires them to adhere to strict diets and fitness regimens - puts them in a separate category from the rest of us.
- Do a reality check. The images we're pursuing aren't just unattainable; they're illusions. When CBS was criticized for altering a publicity photo to make Katie Couric appear 20 pounds lighter, a network spokesman pointed out that almost all magazines doctor photographs. Check out this photo touchup demonstration by G!rlpower, a Swedish media awareness campaign. Photo doctoring certainly isn't restricted to young models, like the one in the demo. Jamie Lee Curtis made headlines for appearing in an untouched photo in 2002 because aging is taboo in glossy magazines. And it's not just print media that's faking it. Hollywood routinely uses body doubles for even the most fit celebrities.
- Moderate your media consumption. Nielsen Media reports the average American watches more than four hours of television each day. If TV viewing were our job, we'd be eligible for benefits. Consider how much of your life is spent staring into a screen. A Journal of Communication study links television viewing with body dissatisfaction. Movement, on the other hand, can enhance body satisfaction. For example, the American Dance Therapy Association says dance can have a beneficial effect on body image and self-esteem. Read my Fitness Tips for Parents for ideas on incorporating exercise into your life.
- Seek out diverse media models. It's hard to feel body-confident after reading a celebrity magazine or watching the latest box-office hit. Look for entertainment that celebrates a variety of body shapes. Go to a play, where the performers are more likely to work with drama coaches than personal trainers and directors cast for overall visual interest as much as individual appearance. Know of movies or TV shows featuring positive portrayals of folks of all sizes? Share your ideas in the discussion forum.
- Participate in media that engages your mind and spirit. Whatever your interest, you'll find books and magazines to help you develop it. Browse a library or bookstore for titles on photography, travel, gardening and more. Instead of watching a music video showing more flesh than artistry (and even Disney's Sing-Along Songs can fall into this category), opt for an audio recording and listen to the lyrics. Branch out to a new musical genre, such as folk or classical. For inspiring or thought-provoking viewing suggestions, read the American Film Institute's 100 Years...100 Cheers list.
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